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DATE:      May 5, 2009

TO:           Department Benefit Representatives (DBRs)

FROM:     John Berberet

RE:          The Next Learn at Lunch

As humans it seems we are drawn to relationships. Being close to another person can be fulfilling, comforting and help us to understand our selves. At the same time, trying to maintain and deepen a close relationship can  be challenging and difficult. This presentation will look at research to show how long term relationships can work and be positive for both people.  Staff, faculty and
students are welcome to attend. Please see below for details.

To see our current flyer click here:
http://hr.ucsb.edu/asap/pdf/Learn@Lunch_Spring2009.pdf

Wednesday, May 6, 2009
12:00-1:00 pm
Flying A Studios
UCen

"The Seven Principles for Making a Long Term Relationship Work"
Do you want to feel more affection toward your partner and receive more affection in return? Do you want to deepen, enrich and enliven your relationship? Would you like to develop an emotionally intelligent relationship, where you and your partner learn to keep your negative thoughts and feelings from overwhelming your positive ones? Based on psychologist John Gottman's more than 30 years of research on couples, this presentation will teach you how to:
     *Tell the difference between solvable and perpetual problems (and how to manage each more successfully)
     *Learn the secret of happy couples: making and receiving repair attempts
     *Discover the crucial difference between complaints and criticism
     *Know the 5 predictors of divorce and their antidotes

Deborah C. Schiller, Ph.D.
Psychologist, Private Practice
http://www.drdeborahschiller.com


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John.Berberet@hr.ucsb.edu
Academic and Staff Assistance Program
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